By: Wendy Dawson – CEO Spectrum Linx
Growing recognition of the importance of caring for caregivers has emerged in recent years.
The relentless demands of caregiving can take a toll on parents’ physical and mental well-being,
often leading to burnout and increased stress levels. With as many as 1 in 36 children today
diagnosed with autism, many individuals are dedicated professionals AND caregivers raising
children with autism and similar disabilities. Balancing professional commitments and personal
life can be challenging. When you’re a caregiver for someone with autism, that balance may
become even more delicate.
The shift in focus towards caregiver well-being is beneficial for parents and has a ripple effect,
positively impacting the overall quality of life for the entire family.
This article will explore two valuable resources through which working caregivers of autistic
individuals can find support— “The Village” and the Employee Resource Group (ERG).
The Village
For parents of children with autism, creating their village — a network of understanding
individuals, professionals, and support groups — can make all the difference in their journey.
You’ve probably heard the phrase “It takes a village to raise a child” many times. When you
became a parent of a child with a disability, you likely have even asked the question, “Where is
MY village?” What value does belonging to a village bring to families that they otherwise cannot access?
Shared responsibility? Yes. This may be the most obvious aspect that people recognize and
seek after. Safety and security? Most likely, there will be a collective sense of responsibility for each child
within the village. Emotional support? Families should support one another during challenges and struggles.
However, the benefit that could be the most beneficial to families is not one of the more
obvious. The wisdom gained from experience that can be shared from one person to another may be
the most valuable benefit you will find from belonging to a community of other parents,
educators, and self-advocates who have already traveled the journey you are now on.
In the tapestry of human culture and tradition, the wisdom of elders has occupied a place of
reverence and significance. Within the confines of a village, the interaction between elders and
the younger generation is vital for the community’s survival. Elders possess a treasure trove of
practical knowledge – from farming techniques perfected over generations to natural remedies,
from local flora and fauna knowledge to ancient crafts. When passed down from one
generation to the next, such information not only preserves traditional ways of life but also
offers sustainable solutions in the face of challenges. On a personal level, the guidance provided by elders can be invaluable. They benefit from hindsight, having navigated the complexities of life, and their advice can help younger members avoid pitfalls, make informed decisions, and find their path in life. Much like the invaluable guidance elders provide from their wealth of experience, the shared experiences of parents raising children with disabilities, the vast knowledge of strategies and techniques from educators and therapists, as well as the unique perspective of input from self- advocates, are crucial within your “village.”
● Parents raising children with disabilities, for instance, bring forth a profound, intimate
understanding of their daily challenges and triumphs. Their lived experiences provide
both emotional resonance and practical guidance for others in similar situations. Their
shared experiences are like guidebooks for those who follow. A support group
connection, whether in-person or virtual, is an essential component of your village.
● Educators and therapists contribute a professional dimension. With their specialized
training, they introduce evidence-based strategies, techniques, and resources tailored
to address specific needs. Their expertise often enables pathways to enhance a child’s
cognitive, physical, and emotional development, ensuring every child can reach their full
potential. Find ways to connect with empathetic and knowledgeable professionals, but
also take the time to listen to you and your concerns.
● Furthermore, the voice of self-advocates — individuals with disabilities who champion
their rights and perspectives — adds a crucial layer of depth to the collective wisdom.
Their unique insights underscore the importance of agency, dignity, and inclusivity. They
provide unique insight in a way that no others can. Many self-advocates give their time
to support parents and other individuals with autism. Social media groups, nonprofit
organizations, and even personal websites provide avenues to connect with this critical
group.
Just as the wisdom of elders assists younger members in making informed decisions and
avoiding pitfalls, their shared experiences can serve as a source of understanding and guidance,
helping you discover strength, resilience, and the most appropriate pathways for your
children’s well-being.
Employee Resource Groups
In today’s demanding workforce, employers are increasingly recognizing the importance of
supporting their employees in various aspects of their lives. One area where this support is
crucial is in assisting working parents who are raising children with autism and similar special
needs. Connecting care means recognizing the needs of caregivers and their invaluable role in
both parenthood and profession. Embracing an understanding of autism and supporting
caregivers ensures a more compassionate, inclusive, kinder working world.
Employee Resource Groups (ERGs) have emerged as valuable resources that can provide
invaluable assistance to these parents. These ERGs, when available, offer a sense of belonging,
understanding, and empowerment to parents, providing a platform for shared experiences,
knowledge exchange, and emotional support.
Shared Experiences and Peer Support: ERGs create a safe and inclusive space for
parents facing similar challenges to come together. Working parents of children with
autism and special needs often encounter unique hurdles, from navigating the
healthcare system to accessing appropriate educational resources. ERGs offer a
platform for parents to share their experiences, exchange information, and provide
emotional support.
– Access to Resources and Information: ERGs can serve as a hub for information and
resources related to autism and special needs. They can provide guidance on accessing
therapies, government support programs, and educational services. ERGs can also invite
experts to speak on topics relevant to these parents, helping them stay informed and
make informed decisions.
– Advocacy and Awareness: By collaborating with their employers, ERGs can advocate for
workplace policies and benefits that specifically address the needs of working parents
with children on the autism spectrum or with special needs. This can include flexible
work arrangements, extended parental leave, or better accommodations to balance
work and caregiving responsibilities.
– Fostering Inclusivity: ERGs can be crucial in fostering a more inclusive workplace
culture. By raising awareness and understanding of the challenges these parents face,
ERGs create a more empathetic and supportive work environment.
Many employers have learned that by embracing ERGs, they can demonstrate their
commitment to diversity, equity, and inclusion while also helping their employees balance the
demands of work and caregiving for their children with special needs. Doing so creates a win-
win situation that benefits the workforce and the organization. Contact your Human Resources
department to determine if your company/organization has an ERG. If they do not, you could
be instrumental in getting one started just by expressing your interest.
When caregivers receive the support they need, they are better equipped to balance
professional commitments with personal responsibilities, enhancing their overall quality of life
and, in turn, leading to improved outcomes for the entire family. As society shifts towards a
more inclusive understanding of the needs of families raising children with special needs, the
need for caregiver support becomes increasingly central. By championing adequate caregiver
support, we contribute to a more compassionate and understanding community where
caregivers are valued, upheld, and acknowledged for their pivotal role.
*as originally published in Autism Parenting Magazine May 2024